It says everybody deserves a second chance.
But is this really true? And how do we decide, whether someone deserves another chance or not? What do we do, if we gave too many chances to someone else?!
It’s always a really difficult and emotional thing to consider about that.
The best example are relationships, I think, because we all know; “Love is blind”… If we are in love so much that we would fight against the whole world to protect and defend the one we love, it can happen, that we are truly blind and e.g. don’t see, that our “Mr. or Mrs. Perfect” isn’t good for us. And in this case we also give too many chances sometimes…
So, how can we decide, if it’s right or not, to give a second chance, or maybe a third or a fourth one…?!
It would be easy to say; “Listen to your heart and you will find the right decision there, it will show you the right way…blablabla…”
But I’m afraid, that it’s not that easy, when it comes to themes like this.
Of course, it’s important to listen to your heart, but sometimes you should also listen to the persons who are really close to you and who are very important to you like a family member or your best friend. They see it better (and definitely clearer) than you if someone’s a bad influence on you. I know this is very hard to accept, especially when you are in love. But I’ve made my experiences with that, trust me… It’s not always the right way to go with love…
If you give too many chances and always keep believing, the person you give ‘em to will change, will do it better next time, then you definitely will be brought down by that… You will always get one disappointment after another and it will get worse and worse, you will always get hurt more and more, everytime the one you forgave breaks another promise.
It’s hard to say; 3 chances are okay, 2 are too less, 5 too much…
You somehow have to decide it by heart, even if this is really hard…but you have to be careful and always look at the truth. Don’t tell yourself: “This is the last chance” again and again and again… Be careful and consider very well about giving a new chance. Sometimes it’s better to say goodbye at the right time, than living in a childish, naïve hope, always getting disappointed by the one that you love and defend against everyone, the one you would die for…
It can hurt like hell to loose a person you love more than your own life, but it’s no alternative to let the one destroy you by ignoring the chances you give to him/her. Don’t let others rule your life like that…
Take care,
BeautifulNightmare
